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Is There Really True Love To Be Found On A F F? YES!  

rm_talldarkavg1 113M
11779 posts
10/5/2007 6:00 pm
Is There Really True Love To Be Found On A F F? YES!

As I roam the streets of Blogville I see some really disappointed people and that saddens me. I hate seeing people have their hopes and expectations dashed. Soooo, I have some suggestions for those who have yet to find true love in here.

Most of the guys in here that are disappointed have the same theme. "I told her my dick wouldn't suck itself and I'm the best there is and she didn't answer. What a bitch. Are there any REAL women on this site?" Yes , this is an actual copy and paste. I don't think we need to go any farther with these cretins.

The more serious men wonder how to talk with and possibly meet someone. The ladies have a similar interest. If I may be so bold, as Blogville's elder and master of what NOT to do, let me offer some guidance.

First. Sit down with a piece of paper and pen and write down your NEEDS. What do you truly need from a partner? NOT what you want, but what you need. Do you need to feel loved? Do you need a strong personality in your life? Do you need security? Compassion? Make a detailed list of what you need.

The purpose for this...until you truly know and understand what you NEED...you can never find a partner who will satisfy those needs. As a result, relationships may come close, but will never hit. Time after time they miss. Until we recognize our mistakes, we are doomed to repeat them. Recognize your needs. This is the single greatest gift you can give yourself.

Cruise the blogs and keep your eyes peeled. You will find people with your perspective and goals. Those are the ones to zero inon and discover if they can meet your needs. How you ask? Questions.

Let's try a little something here. Do you think that actual immediate mind control is possible? Can someone take over your mind so totally that you will ONLY think of what they want you to think when they want you to? You may say no or probably not. Now consider this please, how many siblings do you have? Name them aloud please. What is your position in the family? Are your parents surviving? What are their names?

About 30 seconds ago I asked if mind control was possible and the conclusion was no. Yet for the last 30 seconds you thought only about your family. Mind control is possible. With questions. Ask a person a question and they will think of the answer. Imagine of you put the right questions in the right sequence. You just controlled a thought process. Amazing what you can unlock in a person via questions. This probably will not work if you're thinking world conquest.

The secret to true love lies within you. Are you worthy? Have you been beaten down so many times that you feel whatever life deals you is good enough? It isn't! You deserve the best life has to offer and nothing less each and every day. You have just as much right to happiness as anyone else does. Don't ever settle. Don't ever accept any position other than first. Remember, if you are unhappy...how can you possibly make someone else happy?

I am going to post something you probably would never expect coming from me in a couple of days. I want to talk about the ADVANTAGES to a long distance relationship.


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Ana_6973 50F

10/5/2007 6:42 pm

Ya know, you're gonna ruin your image as a jerk if you keep posting these thoughtful commentaries.

I think one other issue that plagues people who use internet sites to meet people is that the anonymity gives them the illusion that they don't have to follow some of the basic courtesies we all learn. I think that a lot of people would find themselves more successful on here and other sites and even in person if they'd simply think about how they approach people. If your mother or sister or any other female of importance in your life would bitch-slap you for saying it, then don't say it to a total stranger you want to get close to.

Ya know you really are too sweet!

Later!
{=}

~~"I can scream as loud as your last one, but I can't claim innocence."~~


rm_DaphneR 65F
8019 posts
10/5/2007 7:25 pm

I think New has been trying to work mind control on me. Either that or he's stalking me in your blog.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


JetSetPets 51M/48F

10/5/2007 7:30 pm

I found my husband through the blogs. I was in NY and he was in the UK! We've been married for 5 months, we bought a home and we're super happy together!

Everyone thought it wouldn't work! It did and will continue to do so!


***teehee***


rm_mm0206 76F
7758 posts
10/5/2007 10:47 pm

There are no ...NO advantages to being in a long distance relationship...
none...
getting to know someone and chatting until the cows come home will never replace sitting down and talking over coffee or drinks..

But...TDA... I will sit and listen and although I doubt you can persuade me ... I will keep an open mind.... truly.

btw I have made my list...
it's on my blog so many times, it's embarrassing...

tender hugs...m.


rm_swallow22us 71M/52F
1599 posts
10/6/2007 4:56 am

<<<< stands slack jawed in awe of T's wisdom.

As always
Swallow


incidental2006 67F
2215 posts
10/6/2007 7:08 am

You forgot to mention that you need to have an extensive inventory of what you have to offer too. Don't sell yourself short. Make yourself seem fabulous and worth striving to gain. I don't particularly like appearing to be needy so I save that for someone who has the strength of character to really cope with the massive demands I'm likely to make on him.


rm_Orgasmic4u2 62F
1223 posts
10/6/2007 8:32 am

Very well said.

Org.


crazygurl2xx 64F

10/6/2007 1:28 pm

i write about this all the time. love is an action verb and in some respects it has to be earned and maintained.

i met my guy here 2 years ago and believe me, if i can do it anyone can...

good post.


hithard4you 48F

10/6/2007 3:03 pm

Well said! If you do not know or understand exactly what it is you want, no one else has a chance. As far as stupid, petulant e-mails go... I get many. I have become an expert on blocking!!

Still, there is something to be said about people strong enough and hopeful enough to expect a certain level of connection ( and are willing to take the risk to get it). I must say... they are stronger than me.

All I want to do is spank your ass, not kiss it! That does not involve emotional risks at all.


Whispersoftly5 59F
15173 posts
10/6/2007 4:21 pm

What a wonderful post!!!

I've been on a few dating sites and never took time to consider my needs, as you discuss. At this site, I took some time to write out my needs for my ad and do believe it made a difference. I met my sweetheart here. We will have been dating for two years come January 1 (not too far off).

We're talking about moving in together which is very exciting. But I'm a little nervous, as I've lived alone for 20+ years. I'm more excited than nervous though and am looking forward to taking this big step!!!

A well thought out ad does make a difference! {=}


AmericanBaronin 59F  
12250 posts
10/6/2007 4:44 pm

Where's the post about long distance relationships, ya lazy git?


rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:31 pm

    Quoting  :

Good for you! Happy is a very desirable quality. Of course, a black bra never hurt either.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:34 pm

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I have read them. Had I been able to fulfill 3 or more I would have hit on you immediately. In the mean time I'll just sit in the wings and see if you lower your standards.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:36 pm

    Quoting Ana_6973:
    Ya know, you're gonna ruin your image as a jerk if you keep posting these thoughtful commentaries.

    I think one other issue that plagues people who use internet sites to meet people is that the anonymity gives them the illusion that they don't have to follow some of the basic courtesies we all learn. I think that a lot of people would find themselves more successful on here and other sites and even in person if they'd simply think about how they approach people. If your mother or sister or any other female of importance in your life would bitch-slap you for saying it, then don't say it to a total stranger you want to get close to.

    Ya know you really are too sweet!

    Later!
    {=}
Thanks darlin...I doubt anything will ruin my image as a jerk.

You are so right. Manners just seem to be a thing of the past anymore.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:38 pm

    Quoting rm_DaphneR:
    I think New has been trying to work mind control on me. Either that or he's stalking me in your blog.
Uh huh, sure. You think that statement will throw this old hound dog off the trail? I'm watching you two. You do remember my rules don't you? If you do hook up...rule #1...DETAILS!

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:40 pm

    Quoting JetSetPets:
    I found my husband through the blogs. I was in NY and he was in the UK! We've been married for 5 months, we bought a home and we're super happy together!

    Everyone thought it wouldn't work! It did and will continue to do so!
I absolutely LOVE happy endings! Good for both of you. I have an ex in the UK. Lord knows I do my part to support their economy.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:41 pm

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We are all thinking of his galantry on our behalf. May he return home safe and sound!

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:43 pm

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Wait a country minute...did I just read you saying that you don't like yourself? Whoa Nelly tie up the horses Daddy's got some business. Wait...are you joking about that?

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:45 pm

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LMAO...young lady you can pimp me any time you want!!

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:49 pm

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Thank you. I agree completely. I am alarmed a bit at the male mentality in here. I fear it's heading in a shameful unforgivable direction. Those men assume if a woman is on this site...she wants it. Therefore they are rude, vulgar, take any liberty they wish, and are downright disrespectful. What scares me is it is that same mentality that explains off as...she was asking for it. Shameful indeed!

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:50 pm

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Congrats Arti! Sifting is the key isn't it?

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:51 pm

    Quoting rm_mm0206:
    There are no ...NO advantages to being in a long distance relationship...
    none...
    getting to know someone and chatting until the cows come home will never replace sitting down and talking over coffee or drinks..

    But...TDA... I will sit and listen and although I doubt you can persuade me ... I will keep an open mind.... truly.

    btw I have made my list...
    it's on my blog so many times, it's embarrassing...

    tender hugs...m.
I respect your position and do somewhat agree with you. (here it comes)However...there may be a side to this you haven't considered.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:53 pm

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Are you kidding me? The guy would be the luckiest sombitch on the planet. Patience young lady, he'll come along sooner than you imagine.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:53 pm

ROFLMAO

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:54 pm

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LOL, thank you sir!

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:57 pm

    Quoting incidental2006:
    You forgot to mention that you need to have an extensive inventory of what you have to offer too. Don't sell yourself short. Make yourself seem fabulous and worth striving to gain. I don't particularly like appearing to be needy so I save that for someone who has the strength of character to really cope with the massive demands I'm likely to make on him.
I'm a firm believer in weed lurking. When I spot a person of interest I sit back, read, think, observe their interactions, and comment. A person reveals their hand quite readily in their actions faster than their words. Material items are of no use to an unhappy person.

But that's just me.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 5:58 pm

Thank you young lady.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 6:00 pm

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LOL, good to see you! Don't count on what's coming to be that great! In your situation...I'd suggest tranquilizer darts.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 6:01 pm

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Excellent point! Pretty much the same reason I started blogging.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 6:07 pm

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My pleasure.

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__Maria__ 58F
8252 posts
10/6/2007 6:15 pm

Long distance love relationships are tuff, but sure one can find love here and any other places, once one knows what makes one happy.

Maria



~~~*I* only blog for entertainment and for practicing my Inglés~~~


bustybettyboop 57F
59311 posts
10/6/2007 6:16 pm

wonderful post sweetie! {=} hugs,lis

..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one?


rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 7:03 pm

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I like Hope. Faith and Charity pissed me off.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 7:04 pm

    Quoting __Maria__:
    Long distance love relationships are tuff, but sure one can find love here and any other places, once one knows what makes one happy.

    Maria
That's the secret!

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 7:04 pm

Thanks.

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69696969ohyesss 63F

10/6/2007 7:51 pm

The secret to true love lies within you. Are you worthy? Have you been beaten down so many times that you feel whatever life deals you is good enough? It isn't! You deserve the best life has to offer and nothing less each and every day. You have just as much right to happiness as anyone else does. Don't ever settle. Don't ever accept any position other than first. Remember, if you are unhappy...how can you possibly make someone else happy?

How true that is!! Except what is sad people don't see that cause there so darn unhappy, and they want everyone else to feel sorry for them.
BTW a awesome post


rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 8:17 pm

    Quoting 69696969ohyesss:
    The secret to true love lies within you. Are you worthy? Have you been beaten down so many times that you feel whatever life deals you is good enough? It isn't! You deserve the best life has to offer and nothing less each and every day. You have just as much right to happiness as anyone else does. Don't ever settle. Don't ever accept any position other than first. Remember, if you are unhappy...how can you possibly make someone else happy?

    How true that is!! Except what is sad people don't see that cause there so darn unhappy, and they want everyone else to feel sorry for them.
    BTW a awesome post
Thank you! Welcome to our little corner of Blogville.

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69696969ohyesss 63F

10/6/2007 8:29 pm

Tall,
I hope you don't mind that I copied and pasted a part of your bloq.
After reading your bloq one part was interesting and I used it in mine.
Hope you don't mind.


rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/6/2007 8:46 pm

    Quoting 69696969ohyesss:
    Tall,
    I hope you don't mind that I copied and pasted a part of your bloq.
    After reading your bloq one part was interesting and I used it in mine.
    Hope you don't mind.
Use anything from here you wish! I'm flattered. Thank you.

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/7/2007 5:20 am

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Aw shucks ma'am. I'm stopping over to your place today. We'll do cybercoffee

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rm_talldarkavg1 113M
10172 posts
10/7/2007 2:20 pm

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I absolutely love happy endings! Thank you for sharing your happiness with us.

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Stuffedshirt4U 62M
95 posts
10/8/2007 6:14 am

Tall.. I commend you for this posting. I truly do. Another person that has brought forth the problem as you just noted men thinking if a woman is on this site she wants it automatically, is Rdy2try4. She is a wonderful woman, smart and says exactly waht she wants and has tact in doing so. She has posted emails good and bad that men send, and women, so that others can see exactly what goes on around here... as you said the rude, vulgar emails sent because they think this is a free whorehouse or something. Rdy's info blogs HAS helped me and many others understand just what people on here go through. Women think they are doing something wrong.. this shows they are not alone. Men wonder why women don't answer...this shows reasons why.

GOOD POST SIR!!


DacrushaNSensual 65M/54F

10/18/2007 5:21 pm

I was dating my man from Fuck Hub fell in love and then got married if you search hard enough you can find the one for you.


Danceaway_Lover 71M
11 posts
12/29/2012 7:23 pm

SURE MIND CONTROL WORKS...Persuasion Is A Wonderful Tool... And can be charming when done gently. I think I will mention the real power of mind control is in the control of ones self, and own mind...I hope I am not to far off the mark. I dislike manipulation...of any kind sends the flags up. But of course, some are that way. So also acceptance of ones lover, and others is the generous way.

I am glad I am here...

Happy New Year!


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