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AFF Profiles * Emails & Chat Biggest Mistakes POV  

kitkatny4bbc 62F
44 posts
5/9/2016 8:18 am

Last Read:
5/17/2020 10:01 am

AFF Profiles * Emails & Chat Biggest Mistakes POV

Am directing this more towards the males. My POV for profiles, emails & chat do's & don'ts. Find it easier to list it than write it as a blog. Here it goes as you only get once chance to get it right the first time, You need to treat women with respect no matter how big of a slut or sub she may be, you still need to treat with women with respect, Am astonished how many males are clueless to understanding this concept. Remember your approach is the females first impression. Learn how to approach us and catch our attention. Above all respect our preferences we know what we want and so should you! We aren't here to figure it out for you. Learn how to engage, entice, flirt & approach women. Be a man of quality, substance & have a unique technique. Women only want to put their time, energy, & effort into someone worth it & not into those who say "watch me cum."

PROFILES:

1. If you do not have any pics you need to understand you are up against thousands of others competing for the smaller number of women on this site.
2. Females don't want their time wasted being directed to view your pics elsewhere.
3. Posting a pic of whatever part you post of the same pic several times is just ridiculous.
4. Not having a face pic or lack of body pics show you're playing games.
5. If your pics are fakes that's just pathetic.
6. Anything that is fake or a lie in your profile is pathetic shows you're playing games. We're adults expect you to act like one.
7. If you have 1 line or 2 in your profile shows that you will lack sexually if you aren't putting effort into your profile you're obviously not gonna put effort into being with that person (my POV).
8. Keep it real. Females know all the lines don't manipulate.
9. The entire point of the profile is to have the basic essential information completed with a face pic. The most awkward thing is to see a hot body then have to reject someone because their face.body pic is not attractive. Put it all out there so a decision can be made & this way nobody's time is wasted.
10. Many women in their account set up have clicked on the invisible option while viewing profiles. If there is some interest only way she can determine if she truly is interested is looking at your profile. You males then get obnoxious & send emails out to all who has viewed your profile. Just because someone viewed you doesn't mean there is an interest.
11. Females feel "if you can view me you better bet your ass I better be able to view you too" it needs to work both ways. Again there is that option in the account where you can filter members who do not have pics or completed profiles not to contact you.
12. FFS don't provide a college thesis in your profile. We're not planning the trip to Disneyworld.
13. Tell me what you are about & what your experience is what you want and what you want in a woman. Please save the stuff how great you are at licking pussy. We know you all hold the trophy to being the best at everything.
14. Women want to see you have a personality that you aren't dry wood. They like males with substance. We do not need your resume. FFS do not cut and paste some other male's profile. Cannot tell you how many times I have come across the same profile on 100 of others profiles here.

EMAILS:

1. Most of us have lives & do not want our time wasted. Those emails "hello" get deleted & blocked. Seriously why even bother.
2. We know you cut & paste your message & send it out to several women the same wording.
3. Manipulation we know the game it doesn't work just stop.
4. You cut & past or email some porn shit. It's just laughable women don't even read it.
5. If you aren't local & we're here for real meets why even bother with an email when you will get no reply?
6. Why send rude emails? Just immature & you get blocked people don't care about your opinion & view you as crazy.
7. Why some males expect a reply? Isn't the answer obvious if someone doesn't reply they aren't interested. Just move on... really move on...
8. Women get hundreds of emails a day. We filter through them by the face pic & location. If i'm not attracted to you I won't even read what you have to say. If you're not stating what you want in you're 1st email I can't be bothered. Most of us not into the email game. We like confident secure males who know what they want.
9. Do you expect us to be honest with you when you males lie to us, don't think so. We always find out the truth. Dont be frontin your shit.

CHAT:

1. Whether it be in the chat rooms or IM all males asking the same thing "watch me cum" ... no ty. Understand females get this asked 1 million times a day. We realize you go to every single girl in the room asking in every room. It does NOTHING for us except waste our time. We aren't here to service you. You're confused. Am not saying some females won't but when you're here a lot like myself & most others those words are just regurgitated every second & it's played out.
2. Everybody here for a different reason. Don't assume because you have a dick every girl is going to want you. Women need a connection. Males just need a pulse & a fuckhole.
3. Engage a female into chat. Flirt & pull her into your convo. If you do not know how to flirt observe others. Having a sense of humor is key.
4. Worse offenders are repeaters. Who repeat the same shit over & over & over it's obnoxious & annoying. It reduces your chances because those types go to the ignore list & get blocked nobody wants to deal with dat shit.
5. If you are mean nasty rude or attack others in chat most will IGNORE you & block you we aren't here for YOUR drama leave that shit at the door.
6. It's truly incredible males will hit on women with no pics just to get them off find it mind blowing but hey if that's your thang not my business but please don't hit on me it shows you have no substance. Same for those who tell a women she's hot cos her body pics are hot but she has no face pics her face could look like a monster but you tell her she's hot. As for me I do not use empty words I don't say something unless I mean it. I don't spew compliments am str8 up.
7. Just cos someone is in chat doest't mean they wanna engage in chat.
8. THIS IS THE BIG ONE.... Don't assume someone is here for the same reasons that you are here...seriously are you kidding you can't be more self centered. Don't assume someone is into the same sexual stuff you are into either.
9. Don't be pushy it's just gonna get you blocked & onto the ignore list. How can you not understand this by now?
10. Experienced want experienced in most cases not all but most.
11. The worse thang you can do is agree with a female on everything in her
profile & agree with everything in chat in other words if you're an ass kisser w/o any opinion of your own just to get someone to watch your cam or get you to cum that makes you utterly pathetic. It show's you can't think for yourself.
12. Begging ... for fuck sake just don't go there. If we don't wanna chat or view you move along, c'mon really .. just stop.
13. Don't be frontin ya stuff we know we know keep it real.
14. The way you act in the public chat rooms towards others are seen by other people. Your displaying who you are & what you are all about so if you attack others & are mean it's not attractive.
15. Males this may come as a shock but we know every line every manipulation tactic every move. Females want someone with the unique technique who know how to reach out to us in a special way. Not that difficult to figure out.. just be who you are with a bit of spice!
16. Whenever a female gets on cam males immediately try to tell her what to do, wtf? It's her cam she can think for herself. Why oh Why get on her cam just to tell her to view your cam or help get you off? Really? These are some of the reason's women do not want to get on cam. Males harass them to death where they just shut their cams down. Think about it. Instead of asking a female "what are you looking for" why not offer something up & say "is that something you would be interested in to?" Saying " i wanna fuck your ass" could be a total turn off to some women who aren't into it... again the assumption is gonna kill your spot.
17. Never understood why people come into chat for the sole purpose to abuse others obviously they never became adults. They need to understand NOBODY has to tolerate their abuse & most likely not only their victim but others block them. (that's another POV in itself) This is all I'm going to say on the subject.

Summary:

This is my POV. Your comments are most welcome! Be adults & don't be rude it's seriously not necessary & it's immature. Ripping apart others gets you nowhere fast. Don't forget whatever you post to my blogs others will see what you're about too you may want to keep that in mind.


NowOrNever3019 39M

7/13/2020 9:08 am

excellent POV


ItsThtPervertGuy 44M
484 posts
5/28/2020 7:23 pm

Good post. But I would ask what about the rules for Women in regards to men? Some women post a pic of their chest fully covered or post no pic at all and expect a Man to offer up a full album of pics. Umm No!! Like you said if If you can see me I expect to see you. And if it is not a face pic on my profile or yours then I will send one if you.

Which brings me to another funny thing about women here. They expect a pic(facial) of you (man) but not want to send one back or will send out a smeared face pic and expect a full visual pic of you.Ummm NO!! I understand there needs to be chemistry but that is both ways. How do you know I will like you if or after I have seen your pic?

Also most women have NO lines on their profile but expect a full profile from the men. Now I understand the ratio of Women to men on here and allot of the Men on here are overly horny and or sexed and do anything too get a woman's attention but there are a few of us men on here that are not desperate at all and are above,above average and those unfilled out profiles, no pic exchange or clothed pic for a pic album among other out right crazy stuff I have seen on here from women will not work. Women always say they want a top level on the ball Man so be that woman!!


kitkatny4bbc 62F
47 posts
5/29/2018 7:29 am

Wish more would read it too!


rdy2try4 58F  
3330 posts
7/4/2016 8:03 am

Great post!!

#1 - Face photos vs just body or cock shots. I can't agree more about people, male and female, who have a great body, but their faces are less than appealing. Sorry, but it IS true and it can make or break a deal for women more than men. I am not trying to be mean, but I have seen men myself in the chatroom saying every women that has a boob photo is hot and they can't see anything except her boobs. Having boobs doesn't make one hot and I can't take it seriously if they say it to me after that. I have met a few people at the meet and greets that seriously had faces that could stop a truck. I am not saying I am the most beautiful. H*ll someone probably thinks I am uglier than a Pug's butt!!! I at least show my face so they can decide.

#2 - Getting on cam and giving orders. I can't give this one enough attention. I personally don't get naked when I am on cam and nothing is more insulting than guys doing nothing but trying to get me naked and then insulting me because I won't do it. I get flooded with emails and digits from guys thinking I am on the cam so therefore I want to meet instantly no matter their location and no matter what they are looking to do. The orders for stand up, show your boobs, show your a**, show your p*ssy, do this and do that gets so annoying. I am not a trained seal and keep in mind 500 OTHER men are doing the same thing at the same time!!!!!! I am not flipping around in my chair billions of times so each guy that comes in can see something whether I am showing it or not. If I want to do something I will, but as this has become so abusive when they don't get their way I have not turned on my cam now for an extremely long time. I am not shoving statues in the room up my crotch nor am I going to get anything else and do something. I often have wondered what makes some people so disgustingly crude let alone where they get some of their ideas of what women should be doing when I had the cam on. It was a total turn off.

#3 - Hello - I am SOOOOOO sick of the one word hello, hi, howdy, hiya emails. I usually write back 'why are you contacting me' as my profile is totally clear. The majority of the time I get no reply, but I will also get the 'f*ck you b*tch' replies because I guess I was supposed to say OHHH he said HI to me and I am going to spread it all now. hahahahahaha Hallucinations are not good fellas!!

The comment that the same goes for women by another member here... I have not seen women doing most of this stuff that harasses people on here. I don't have women contact me with emails b*tching me out with no prior contact. I have not had a woman get on my cam and tell me orders of what to do and get all ticked off if I don't do it. I am sure there are some that come into the chat rooms and are b*tches, but I have yet to see one get in the room and say "who wants to watch me cum?" and have men get ticked off on that. hahahaha Fake photos and such does happen in both genders.

I agree, don't be rude and don't assume we are all here for the same reason. It may be a sex based site, but it is not a whorehouse warehouse where women just service anyone that approaches them.


kitkatny4bbc replies on 7/14/2016 10:27 am:
WoW! Well said & appreciate everything you mentioned. You kinda took it to the next level. It's a great thing! I've said those same things in chat rooms. We can think for ourselves! This isn't the sex request line. They feel the only reason we are here is for their entertainment. Males need a reality check! Definitely why most women won't cam cause they only bother to get onto the women's cams to ask them to view "their" cam how dumb is that shit? Worse of the worse manipulators!!!!!! Don't they know we see right thru their game? Then they go from foolish to just plain stupid! Why they do dat shit?? Above all they expect us to be honest with them when they lie to us? REALLLLYYYYYY????? I would love to teach a 101 course on how to approach women. Most don't even know how to convo. They so used to regurgitating their lines they just think we're gonna jump on board with them. They seriously do not know how to engage or entice us then they wonder "Why not?" What should go thru their minds is "Why would we?"

kitkatny4bbc replies on 4/11/2017 7:07 am:
Thank you for your in depth comments!

kitkatny4bbc 62F
47 posts
5/24/2016 10:39 am

Thanks for your comments! All comments are welcome!


rob5ice2 66M
199 posts
5/21/2016 3:11 pm

Good to have view points. -

But # "4. Not having a face pic or lack of body pics show you're playing games."; and a few others in the 'Profile' list. Is assuming a lot. - Greta for you and many others.

- Not everyone has the same goals and reason. And to be equal here. Then many of what you mentioned could be applied to the females as well. As in #4.

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lol

And after saying all that. Hope you remember #11, under the 'CHAT' section.

lol ...good post. ...Like you would really care. ..


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
5/9/2016 10:46 am

For those of us adults that actually pay for a membership in order to make this fuck registry possible for you to peruse and eliminate what you alone deem sub standard with out as much as meeting someone.Is a very selfish,
impudent and harpy way of going about telling those very people you're interested in to start using common sense.Because if they don't have it by now,You might want to consider dating adults.This should stand as a great reminder.Your effort and execution of this I hope is appreciated by those it's intended for.Nicely done!

Using more than all the road!


iwalkstilts 48M
2869 posts
5/9/2016 9:32 am

Great post!
Nice photo too


Surely97 50F  
20 posts
5/9/2016 9:12 am

Have to agree with all you've stated...great post!


Zugnillinuc 43M
715 posts
5/9/2016 8:58 am

Thanks for this insight.

I'm kind of new here and I'm racking my brains over what to write.
Not to rude but then again I guess not to dull and standard.

I don't have too much on my profile right now but this is good.

Thanks!

And that's a hot photo of you, even with the flash in the way. Too dad we're too far apart to meet up and maybe play together.


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