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You Can Pick Your Friends and You Can Pick Your Nose....  

mc_justmc 63M
2046 posts
6/4/2020 5:11 pm
You Can Pick Your Friends and You Can Pick Your Nose....


I received a friend request last week from a couple in New Zealand. Now normally, if I receive a friend request, I accept it. As long as it's a woman or occasionally a couple, but NOT dudes. I'm not gonna have a bunch of dudes in my "friends" group, I'm not about give my competition any free advertising space on my profile page, besides, more than 1 woman has told it gives the wrong "impression", if you know what I mean. I used have a bare butt pic, since I've had compliments on my ass from women, but again, I was told "it's sending the wrong message. Butt, enough about my butt, back to this request...

I get this friend request. I thought it was odd, I've never seen them before, no blog comments to me or from me, I've never received a "view" or a "flirt" from them, just an out of the blue friend request. So, I went to their profile, nearly 20,000 friends. This has the feel of those friend requests that you get on Faceplace from those teenage girls and you go to their profile and see they have several thousand friends. I think they're collectors competing with other teens to see who can get the most friends.

Well, I declined it, which is something I've never done. It just seemed off. After that, I went to my profile and had a look at my current friends. I had about 20. Most sent requests, I accepted, and that was it. No further contact through messages OR blogs, so I had to ask myself, was there any point? Was I a small time collector? With that I decided it was time to clean house. I trimmed my "friends" list down to 8 by using a simple test. All these friends had to have 1 of the following qualifications:
1- someone I've shared messages with.
or
2-someone I've met in the blogs
or
3-someone that gives me a warm feeling in my crotch. Actually, they all give me that!

Are you a friend collector? How many friends do you have?


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 5:15 pm

This one is for my "friends" happym;


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
6/4/2020 5:26 pm

That feature is turned off for my profile. I used to get friend requests from people I'd never had any interaction with and since I'm not interested in collecting "friends", I turned it off.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
6/4/2020 5:45 pm

I had no friends by choice up until 2 months ago when I posted the friends only lingerie pic post. A few of my readers sent me a request.... But I discovered those posts are now a giant pain in the ass. A lot has changed since 2009 when I had my very first blog.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
6/4/2020 6:06 pm

Nope not a ‘friend collector’. I routinely decline unsolicited friend requests. I shake my head when I see someone has hundreds if not thousands of ‘friends’. We all need to define for ourselves what a ‘friend’ on here means.


lonlyforlove2 81M
32704 posts
6/4/2020 6:14 pm

I have a dozen or so friends, I know something about each.. IE a friend, not just a number, I see these people with thousands of friends, most likely just number collectors, it gives them an added advantage in some of the actives here on these sites, each friend gets a notice of activity from them .. So if they post a photo, Wa-La thousands of people know about it very quick..

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TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
6/4/2020 6:22 pm

I looked at my friends list a few weeks ago and was sad to see quite a few bloggers who no longer post here. Many of my blogger friends are friends on facebook and I tend to interact more there than here lol!


bitchkitty2017 71F

6/4/2020 6:26 pm

well I did a blog on that it was the difference between friends and acquaintances...It actually was determined that friends are considered thise who you meet face to face and have chats with or coffee etc..Acquaintances are those people who we chat with online and through media sources ...I thought i was being kind in accepting those requests but then i came to the conclusion that these were collectors of people on their Profile as " friend" i also realized that when i attempted to chat the empty air gave me a chill ...i cleared house pretty quick ! dont get me wrong i do chat with about 10 and find it equally pleasant when things are learned ..as for close Naw it aint happening!


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
6/4/2020 6:33 pm

14 friends ... 13 fellow bloggers and the guy that introduced me to the site. I don't show the friends on my profile cuz it's nobody's business who my friends are.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
6/4/2020 6:34 pm

btw - 20 would not be considered in the 'collection' category by most.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 6:54 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    That feature is turned off for my profile. I used to get friend requests from people I'd never had any interaction with and since I'm not interested in collecting "friends", I turned it off.
I've never sent out any request, fear of rejection and all, but I'm gonna start accepting only people that I have some form of contact.


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 6:55 pm

    Quoting secret_lade:
    I had no friends by choice up until 2 months ago when I posted the friends only lingerie pic post. A few of my readers sent me a request.... But I discovered those posts are now a giant pain in the ass. A lot has changed since 2009 when I had my very first blog.
whoa whoa whoa, lingerie pic post? How did I miss this?


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 6:57 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Nope not a ‘friend collector’. I routinely decline unsolicited friend requests. I shake my head when I see someone has hundreds if not thousands of ‘friends’. We all need to define for ourselves what a ‘friend’ on here means.
I don't want to be a collector, I'll just keep those "special" ones. You're in that group of 8, "friend"! happym;


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 6:59 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    I have a dozen or so friends, I know something about each.. IE a friend, not just a number, I see these people with thousands of friends, most likely just number collectors, it gives them an added advantage in some of the actives here on these sites, each friend gets a notice of activity from them .. So if they post a photo, Wa-La thousands of people know about it very quick..
I guess f I had more contact, I'd have more friends here, but I have a job, and family, and dogs, and only so many hours in a day...


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 7:01 pm

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    I looked at my friends list a few weeks ago and was sad to see quite a few bloggers who no longer post here. Many of my blogger friends are friends on facebook and I tend to interact more there than here lol!
2 of my friends no longer blog, that's sad because they were both entertaining. I really don't do Faceplace, it's so political.


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 7:04 pm

    Quoting bitchkitty2017:
    well I did a blog on that it was the difference between friends and acquaintances...It actually was determined that friends are considered thise who you meet face to face and have chats with or coffee etc..Acquaintances are those people who we chat with online and through media sources ...I thought i was being kind in accepting those requests but then i came to the conclusion that these were collectors of people on their Profile as " friend" i also realized that when i attempted to chat the empty air gave me a chill ...i cleared house pretty quick ! dont get me wrong i do chat with about 10 and find it equally pleasant when things are learned ..as for close Naw it aint happening!
Yes, if I don't have some kind of contact with the then I don't need them in my friends list and if they gave me empty air, they'd be gone, quick!


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 7:04 pm

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    14 friends ... 13 fellow bloggers and the guy that introduced me to the site. I don't show the friends on my profile cuz it's nobody's business who my friends are.
That's true, it's nobody's business but yours.


mc_justmc 63M

6/4/2020 7:06 pm

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    btw - 20 would not be considered in the 'collection' category by most.
The amount never bothered me, but when I have zero contact with them, why have them there at all? That's when it felt like collecting.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
6/4/2020 7:48 pm

10 friends 1 guy who is a blogger others are/were bloggers.

The whole online friend thing seems a bit odd to me because most are really acquaintances.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
6/4/2020 9:55 pm

Friends here? None... but the site keeps trying to convince me that I do.
'Friends' on A F F is just a free pass to perv ones 'private' pics - isn't it?


mc_justmc 63M

6/5/2020 3:02 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    10 friends 1 guy who is a blogger others are/were bloggers.

    The whole online friend thing seems a bit odd to me because most are really acquaintances.
I understand that odd feeling, but as long as I have some interaction with them it would feel wrong deleting them.


mc_justmc 63M

6/5/2020 3:04 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Friends here? None... but the site keeps trying to convince me that I do.
    'Friends' on A F F is just a free pass to perv ones 'private' pics - isn't it?
shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh exactly. I'm perving on my friends on a regular basis.


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
6/5/2020 3:15 am

I do not accept friend requests unless I have had some type of interaction with the person ( [ IM-rare, blog, messages] I want to like my friends all the way around and asking me to friend you or accept you if I never heard of you- well it wont work

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lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
6/5/2020 4:52 am

Ahhhh, McMc, one of my favourite topics - crusty bogeys (think yoUSes call 'em logies?? )

The quality of the nasal product all depends on the activity, and the same can be said for one's a.f.f 'Friends'.......

I've never really understood that feature because even if you're someone's 'Friend', if you're a standard member all you can do is read 'friends only' blog posts, (which I don't really agree with in the first place, but that's another discussion...) You can't even see their photos or otherwise interact with the person.

And those folks who collect friends by the tens of thousands, well that's a bit like collecting crusty bogeys, is it not??


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
6/5/2020 8:30 am

Ooops I guess according to BJ I'm a friend collector - I think I have about 70. My area had a very active chat room scene once upon a time. We would have occasional meet and greets where everyone would get together at a bar to meet face to face. I suppose I could clean house since I'm no longer interacting with most of those people, but it seems harmless. I have a number of blogfriends in the mix, as well.

The main purpose at this point, is that I have private photo albums and the friends are those who I trust to see face pictures.


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
6/5/2020 8:32 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Friends here? None... but the site keeps trying to convince me that I do.
    'Friends' on A F F is just a free pass to perv ones 'private' pics - isn't it?
In addition, you can see posts that a blogger has made "friend only" but most of us utilize that option rarely or never.


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
6/5/2020 8:34 am

PS I don't look at friend requests with any regularity. At some point they really got away from me and so I currently have 587 unprocessed.


mc_justmc 63M

6/5/2020 3:38 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    I do not accept friend requests unless I have had some type of interaction with the person ( [ IM-rare, blog, messages] I want to like my friends all the way around and asking me to friend you or accept you if I never heard of you- well it wont work
That's how I feel, half a world away and we've never had a word between us? I don't think so...


mc_justmc 63M

6/5/2020 3:40 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    Ahhhh, McMc, one of my favourite topics - crusty bogeys (think yoUSes call 'em logies?? )

    The quality of the nasal product all depends on the activity, and the same can be said for one's a.f.f 'Friends'.......

    I've never really understood that feature because even if you're someone's 'Friend', if you're a standard member all you can do is read 'friends only' blog posts, (which I don't really agree with in the first place, but that's another discussion...) You can't even see their photos or otherwise interact with the person.

    And those folks who collect friends by the tens of thousands, well that's a bit like collecting crusty bogeys, is it not??
collecting crusty bogeys is what tables are for, right? It's been a while since I've been a standard member, but as I remember, you can't do shit.


mc_justmc 63M

6/5/2020 3:43 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    Ooops I guess according to BJ I'm a friend collector - I think I have about 70. My area had a very active chat room scene once upon a time. We would have occasional meet and greets where everyone would get together at a bar to meet face to face. I suppose I could clean house since I'm no longer interacting with most of those people, but it seems harmless. I have a number of blogfriends in the mix, as well.

    The main purpose at this point, is that I have private photo albums and the friends are those who I trust to see face pictures.
Well, that's different than collecting, you've had some form of interaction with these people. No harm in having large numbers of real friends.


mc_justmc 63M

6/5/2020 3:44 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    PS I don't look at friend requests with any regularity. At some point they really got away from me and so I currently have 587 unprocessed.
OMG, I don't know if I should call you popular or a ho. Just kidding!


mc_justmc 63M

6/5/2020 3:46 pm

    Quoting  :

I had to thin my herd.


tickles4us 62M
7262 posts
6/10/2020 7:46 am

I have a dozen friends listed. Mostly locals and some bloggers. I ignore most of the friend requests from strangers that are far away or from people I don't find interesting in some form. Friendlies might be a better term... lol. Though I do consider some to be friends just from a distance that makes it difficult to say if we would be friends were we closer. Friend collectors get rejected.

Vive La Difference


mc_justmc 63M

6/10/2020 4:45 pm

    Quoting tickles4us:
    I have a dozen friends listed. Mostly locals and some bloggers. I ignore most of the friend requests from strangers that are far away or from people I don't find interesting in some form. Friendlies might be a better term... lol. Though I do consider some to be friends just from a distance that makes it difficult to say if we would be friends were we closer. Friend collectors get rejected.
I had a few that seemed interesting, but after zero contact beyond the friend request, I deleted them. I don't understand why I got a request in the 1st place.


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